Your Feelings Matter by Jess Sanders, illustrated by Alice Buckingham
(Affirm Press 2026) HB RRP $24.99 IBSN: 9781923419391
Reviewed by Sylvia
Forbes
From the award-winning
and bestselling author of the Life Lessons for Little Ones series comes
the ultimate emotional wellbeing guide for children (and their grown-ups).
Calling this book the
ultimate emotional wellbeing guide for children is a big claim. It says this is the best and only book you will need in this category.
After reading it — and finding it so in-depth — I tend to agree.
Written in an easy-to-comprehend,
child-friendly format, Your Feelings Matter helps children understand
what they are feeling, why they are feeling it, and what that feeling is trying
to tell them. It then offers practical tools and strategies to help them
respond to their emotions in safe, healthy ways — essential for emotional
literacy and mental health.
Jess Sanders' warm, reassuring
voice shines through from start to finish; it's like she's talking directly to
you—not at you—which goes a long way toward making potentially sensitive or
difficult topics easy for kids (and their grown-ups) to navigate, absorb, and
understand. The narrative goes on to talk about caring for other people's
feelings — extending care for self to care for others. Once children can feel
and name their own emotions, they can recognise what someone else is feeling. This
builds empathy.
One of my favourites is
the hot chocolate breathing — such a genius
method to help overwhelmed children focus on their breathing and regain calm. And
I love that the book describes how different emotions might feel in different
parts of the body (bubbles, butterflies, a beating drum, a heavy backpack),
offering children a mind/body approach to help them connect with and more
accurately identify their feelings.
Alice Buckingham's
bright and inclusive illustrations support the text beautifully. Through a handful
of characters in familiar settings (home, school, and playground),
her artwork brings feelings to life. They give children a visual map of how
they might look when they feel certain emotions—helping them recognise
themselves in similar situations and emotional states.
For generations,
children have often been encouraged (communicated verbally or non-verbally) to
minimise and hide their feelings, to just 'get on with it'. But this
brilliant book completely flips that notion on its head. It says a big YES to
emotions and empowers children to feel, express and process them — safely — and
without shame. By acknowledging and embracing their emotions, children
learn how to move through them — this in itself is super empowering and confidence-building.
It says, ‘I am capable. I am resilient.'
Upbeat and never
didactic, Your Feelings Matter is a compassionately written,
wonderfully illustrated picture book that quite honestly could be read and
appreciated by anyone — at any age. It includes discussion prompts and
practical tips for parents and educators, making it an ideal resource for
social-emotional learning and an invaluable addition for both home and
classroom use.
Highly recommended for
children aged 3-8+